All of my four "anjls" are wonderful people. I am blessed to be their mom.
Yesterday our record of "not one person in our family has ever gotten detention" was shattered when I gave my own son detention. Yep, it was a bad day. I give out about 8 to 10 detentions a year. I haven't given any out this year. Well, until yesterday. I would never choose to be my own kid's teacher but since I teach all the 6th graders, I have no choice.
He was disruptive and talking back in a way that no other student has ever talked to me before-- you know, like a kid talking back to his mom. Unfortunately, it was in front of the entire class. I was proud of myself for restraining my sudden urge to inflict bodily harm. My jaw is still sore from clenching my teeth for the rest of the hour.
He has never dared talk like this to his non-relation teachers. So is this my fault?
My thoughts go back and forth:
- good job, he had it coming (he really did)
- your own son! How could you???
- he wouldn't act up if you were a stay at home mom
- way to put a stop to disruptive behavior!
- you didn't put a stop to it, it will continue to get worse until law enforcement is involved
- there must have been another way to handle it
- way to treat him like any other student
- pandora's box has been thrown wide open and now our children will have detention at least once a week
- if they do have detention once a week, it will be your fault
My Nate is a great kid. He loves to hang out with me. He tried out for orchestra and made the highest level he could for his age. He makes me laugh. He reads above an 8th grade level. He does his homework without being reminded. I am a blessed mom.
We had a bad day. I guess I can blame it on the storm (which btw soaked through my underwear while I was on guard duty-- not sure I get paid enough to stand in lightning storms with hysterical kids who refused to come inside with me because their moms said to "wait right here." Try to convince a 6 year old their mom meant "wait right here unless lightning strikes, and then go with the teacher on duty to a safer location")
wet underwear and detention-- not blog worthy but there you have it.